Sometimes I will lay awake in my bed at night, after everyone else is asleep, just looking at the various scars on my arms and legs. It’s a way I pass the time as I am waiting to drift away to a world that I look forward to more and more. A world where I can once again laugh, run and play. Each scar has its own story to tell. There’s the one on the backside of my left wrist, faded and hard to see unless you would know to look for it. I got it from an operation during my enlistment in the Army some 40 years ago. I had something called a ganglion cyst. Having that prevented my being able to do pushups. I was told that otherwise, they wouldn’t have taken it out. The operation was of course successful and I was once again able to do pushups. On the same hand, near the knuckle of my index finger. There is a “v” shaped scare there, also faint. A reminder of an old C-5 I used to have, when I was young and dumb. Now I’m just old and dumb. No really, since I’m unable to speak, I guess by definition I’m dumb. And well, I am old, so there go. On my right arm just below the bend of my elbow, is a small 1″ scar that I recall I got early one morning while ironing a shirt and preparing for work. I was distracted, in a hurry, and trying to watch a news story. I don’t recall the news story, but I vividly remember the sudden and searing pain as I brushed my arm against a certain hot iron. I jerked my arm back so fast that I nearly dislocated my shoulder. Over the next hour, I watched as a blister took the place of the scarlet red mark where the iron had removed untold layers of skin. Other small marks and scratches, some with stories I could recall and others a mystery. I could hazard a guess for each, but that’s what they’d be a guess. We all have scars and stories to tell. But my biggest scars are not the kind you can’t see. Rather they are scares that reveal much deeper wounds of the mind and spirit. They are unseen to the human eye, but believe me, the pain is real. Most days these hidden scars are something I manage without too much pain. Admittedly though, other times they show themselves in ways I can neither predict nor control. And it hasn’t gotten any easier with my LiS. My emotions are amplified. So, something that may cause you to say “Aww,” will cause me to burst into tears. A thought or memory often finds me suddenly laughing or crying for seemingly no reason at all. Two plus years after my stroke, and it is no better than it was when it first happened. Your scars are a map of your life. Nobody gets through life without having a few, unless you grow up in a padded room. Even then you’ll are bound to have the kind that nobody can see. So the next time someone is having a bad day, be gentle with them, they are probably dealing with one of their scars
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